"I gave you $10 and he gave you $20..."

"I gave you $10 and he gave you $20. You felt that he was better just because he gave you more, but he had $200 and all I had was $10."....

I love my ladies and the woman power that surrounds me BUT when it does come to relationships, some of you cause your own downfall. I know this because I've done it too. I too am continuing to grow and learn from every move and mistake I make. With that being said It's very important that you take each person as their OWN. What I mean by that just because someone that may have treated you one way and/or did things for you one way does not mean someone else will do the same. How you carry yourself and how you deal with these situations make you. Appreciate things that you may have once complained about. For example, if your man always went shopping with you and he did for himself with no complaints then he was obviously interested in doing so. But, if you and him break up and someone else comes along and they don't like to do that but still do that for you, don't complain and bitch because it's not their favorite thing to do. Understand? They are going out of their way to do something they aren't interested in only for YOU. Appreciate it. Girls think it's funny to be petty and whatnot but it's also so important to realize someone's effort may be the best they can give. Whether or not it's more or less than another person, realize and appreciate what is infront of you. THAT DOES NOT MEAN settle for some fuckboy and appreciate the fact that he even texts back. A man that wants to pursue you will give you all the effort he can and will make time to talk to you and see you - Don't get my words twisted. As women we know what effort is and what isn't but we also must understand that it's different for everybody and you gotta be open to it. I've made the mistake of having a certain type and standards and almost cut someone I cared very deeply off because of it. That doesn't mean you stop having standards, it means you realize the other person is doing what they can to make it work even if they don't meet all your standards. It means that if you love someone and and they love you back, your effort WILL be reciprocated, just in a different way. Take time to appreciate the little things. If you give your best and it isn't enough for someone, you'd feel like shit right? If it was never appreciated but instead was always judged/not good enough you wouldn't want to be with that person right? so DON'T do it to someone else. Put yourself in the other person's shoes in every situation even if it's not a relationship. Appreciate more, say thank you more often.

 

You cannot heal in the same environment where you got sick...

I take the L.