You cannot heal in the same environment where you got sick...

"You cannot heal in the same environment where you got sick..."

I've written about toxic people and situations before but It's been really relevant in my life and the people I know and it's something that needs to be talked about. The first step of self love is realizing you come before anything. Your mental health is just as important as your physical and people seem to forget that sometimes. The reality is, you can't control if people are on some B.S. BUT you can control if you stay around the B.S. and you must choose not to every time. You need to get to a point where your mood doesn't shift because of the insignificant and lame actions of others. Don't get me wrong, It's a process. How do you choose to just leave and cut someone off? Is it selfish to do so? Absolutely not. To this day I am learning the same exact thing, in fact I almost lost myself trying to change someone's actions and finally realized I can't. You cannot make someone act right. You can't make someone be loyal or honest or treat you right. You can't make someone stop talking shit about you. You cannot try to break yourself apart in order to try to fix someone else. You can't make the haters stop hating. But I promise you this: While you are working on self love and putting yourself first, the toxic person that brought you down to their level will eventually realize how empty that life really is. Don't force yourself to stay situations because they're comfortable and regular. You will not evolve or grow by staying in the same toxic situation you've always been in. Sometimes certain people and situations are meant to be lessons and that's it - and without even knowing that lesson becomes a blessing in your life because you figured out how to get through it and rise above. Leave the environment that made you sick and choose to heal yourself on your own. 

"I gave you $10 and he gave you $20..."